A letter to my 38-year-old self:

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Do you feel that?

There’s a heaviness and burden on your shoulders that you don’t realize you’re carrying.

It goes where you go.  

Maybe you don’t know it’s there. It’s grown slowly and subtly; its existence lives beyond your current perspective.

Much like a frog doesn’t realize it’s being boiled to death, you’re unaware of the ever-increasing weight you’re carrying.  

You’re also unaware of what that weight is doing. It’s burying and slowly suffocating a piece of you.

And not just any piece; it’s the unlived life inside you.

It’s your authentic self.

It’s the creative, the writer, the innovator, the child who sees opportunity and magic. It’s the part of you clamoring to be set free but trapped under a burden that slowly grows.

What is that weight? It’s a lot of things, and we’ll get to them one by one.

But as an introduction, it is this:

You’ve dedicated the first half of your life to acquisition, not only on the material plane but also internally.

In fact, it’s the internal that fuels the external.

You believe you need wealth, power, status, and prestige to be enough, worthy, happy, and accepted.

You’re terrified of being seen as “less than.”

Your beliefs and fears make up a part of the burden you carry.

You’ve diligently pursued externals, crafting a lifestyle that you believe will get you what you ultimately want so that you can become who you want to be.

You’re living inauthentically, so one day you can live authentically.

That’s not how authenticity works.  

There’s a burden to living inauthentically that’s undeniable. Inherited beliefs and hand-me-down-blueprints of how you believe you should live.

The masks you wear weigh on your soul.

If you want to rewrite history, you must be willing to face what you fear.

You must be willing to challenge your beliefs that money and materialism are the path to the life you say you want.

You have to stop chasing externals and begin the long, and I’m not going to lie, it is an often painful process of chipping away at all that you think you are.

Only when we discover all that’s not ours can we begin to discover who we truly are and have always been.

Ours is a journey of discovery.

First, we need to discover everything that’s not actually our own. These are our beliefs, our fears, our shoulds, and supposed tos.

Second is the long journey of discovering who we are without everything we believed we were.

Third, to discover why we’re here and to give rise to that version of ourselves.

Because that is ultimately who we are.

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